Do you offer something to your kids to do particular deed like get their homework done by themselves, arranging their wardrobes, shoes etc.? Yes one can say it reward or ‘bribery‘ to make them independent. Many parents today readily admit to buying off their children, who get goodies for anything from behaving in a restaurant to sleeping all night in their own beds.
This is really a cause of concern for entire mankind. It may be because of today’s parents have gone too soft for their wards.
Kirsten Whipple, a 35-year-old mom in Northbrook, Ill., says,
Rewarding is definitely increased in our generation and I’m sure our parents would be appalled if they knew how much we bribe our children
Marcy Safyer, director of the Adelphi University Institute for Parenting remembers about the promises she got many times from her parents for sitting quietly through religious services , says,
I think that reward systems have a time and a place and work really well to help develop capacities - if we need them to go above and beyond. But what often gets lost for people is being able to figure out how to communicate to their kids that doing the thing is rewarding enough.
Rewards that make sense:
The reward should match with the deed. You should not offer bigger reward for small - small things. For example, you may offer your kids a visit to their favorite restaurant if they secure good marks in exams. A small gift to encourage good behavior is probably harmless.
